What kind of Mean? Girl-to-Girl Mean. Face-to-face, text-to-text, pen-to-bathroom-stall, whatever. Whether you’ve been mean or been meaned, this page is for undoing it. For being nice behind someone’s back. Cool to someone’s face. Or Facebook.Above is the statement off the description of the page. I think this is amazing that so many people are trying to stop bulling but honestly nothing will change unless we all try to stop our ways.
I'm not perfect I admit that I have intentionally put someone down at one point in my life, I have talked about someone behind their back and I knew what I was doing was wrong. The satisfaction of bringing someone down only lasted a few seconds but the guilt i felt afterward lasted a really long time, even now when I think about those days I get a little pang in my heart. In no way am I a mean person. I'm just like most teenagers. To some people they don't even know when they are talking about people, it's second nature.
Also I have noticed putting people down is a social event. When ever a group of girls get together at one point they talk about people behind their back. It spreads, one girl says something another pipes in and before you know it they just spent and hour dissing people. There are even those groups of friends where one girl leaves the room and shes the target. Or those friends who make fun of their friends in front of them. Bullying is bullying there is no way around it and in today's culture there is way too much of it.
From now on I'll always think before I say anything about anyone.
The point of this post?
We should all try our best to stop talking about people.
And this bully free push wont go far without our participation.
Oksana, I am so glad that you recognize that there is a problem with gossip. I think that the first step in stopping this behavior is recognizing that it does exist. If you hear your friends or others talking about others behind their back, stand up and say something to get them to stop. If nobody stops it, then it will continue. DC is Bully Free!
ReplyDeleteI think it is definitely true that girls can hold grudges that make friendships fall apart quickly. I think that making the right choices and refusing to be a part of gossip is a great first step. This is a great post and its cool to hear that a large company has a project to try and make people aware of all the meanness, especially online.
ReplyDeleteI love this Oksana. Its so true. Girls are catty and mean. Friendships are always falling apart due to jealously, holding grudges, or just being flat out mean. Thats why I am glad that I am finally figuring out who my true friends are and sticking with just a select few girls. It saves for less drama!
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